Dougall Fraser can be seen on “That Sex Show” at 11pm ET Monday-Friday on Logo.
There aren’t many people you can ask what it’s like to be a psychic on a sex-advice show, but Dougall Fraser isn’t like most people. Well, actually, to hear him tell it, he’s absolutely like everyone else, just more in tune with his abilities. Those abilities include being able to see people’s auras (colors radiating around their bodies), and tuning into their frequency just by hearing the sound of their voice.
“I don’t believe that psychics are gifted people,” he says. “I think that everybody is inherently psychic and intuitive. My goal is to empower people to follow their own intuition. The one thing that I tell every client or anyone interested in my work is that the only psychic out there that can be 100 percent accurate for you is yourself. … Most people come to me because they want me to confirm something that they already know.”
He’s been plying his trade for the past month and a half on Logo’s freewheeling That Sex Show, a live call-in advice show that features Fraser, psychotherapist Dr. Mike Dow, radio personality Heidi Hamilton and former porn star Katie Morgan dishing out no-holds-barred advice on sex and relationships. The last new episode airs tonight. You might think that with all his years dealing with clients and now being on TV that Fraser has just about seen it all. But he insists there’s at least one call a night that exposes him to something new.
That’s because callers have been incredibly frank and honest when sharing the most sensitive of information. Fraser has sought to do the same.
“I really try to be as honest as I would be sitting with a friend drinking a cup of coffee talking about my life,” he says. “I joke with the fact that we have this girl Jessica who tweets everything that we say during the show, and when I walk offstage and reread the things that she has quoted me as saying, I completely blush. And I roll my eyes and think, ‘Oh my God, is my mother watching? God help me.’ My intent is if we’re going to ask people to call and be open and candid with their lives, it seems only fair that I would do it in return. Admittedly, sometimes I leave thinking I feel really vulnerable and exposed. But I still think that’s the right thing to do for me. Sometimes I’m shocked by what comes out of my own mouth.”
What shocks him even more sometimes is that anyone notices. It doesn’t always register with Fraser that people are actually watching until someone comes up with him on the street.
“I have learned now that everybody feels completely comfortable telling me whether or not they’re shaved God only knows where or what’s going on in their sex life,” he says.
Fraser has long envisioned being on a show like this, the model being Loveline from the 1990s, so much so that he wonders whether That Sex Show is literally the manifestation of his tireless thoughts on the subject. Although something he never pictured was having the point of view of a porn star included, but he finds the idea “absolutely brilliant.”
Oddly enough, he even noticed at least one similarity between his occupation and Morgan’s former industry.
“Whether you are interested in it, believe in it or not, everyone still has a question,” he says. “So if I’m a at a cocktail party or I’m in the grocery store, everybody wants to ask me a question.”
Ah, yes, the believing-in-it question.
As long as he’s been involved in being a psychic, Fraser has dealt with skepticism. But it’s not something that bothers him. In fact, he encourages it, and even practices it himself.
“Unfortunately, in my industry, there are a lot of fakes out there,” he says. “If you walk down any downtown area of any major city, you’ve got the neon-palm-in-a-window people who typically are not real. You do have to be careful. Whenever you’re seeking out a psychic, you want someone who has some kind of a reputation, some kind of a background and a way that they’ve built their practice is by word-of-mouth and they’re doing well. So I totally encourage skepticism. I’m a skeptic. On the show when I’m thinking [of giving advice], there’s a moment that the fearful part of my brain says, ‘Don’t say that out loud, because what if you’re wrong?’ That’s when I have to move into a conscious, meditative state and quiet that part of my brain and say, ‘This is what I’m getting.’ … My feeling is if we can quiet the mind and express ourselves from the heart, that’s when magic and something really spectacular can happen.”
And now that he’s joined the ranks of TV psychics, he is happy to give his opinion on some other prominent names in the field.
“I think Long Island Medium is a hysterical show, and I think she’s terrific,” he says. “I’ve always been a huge fan of John Edward and James Van Praagh. I have another dear friend who is a television psychic, her name is Colette Baron-Reid. We all kind of travel in the same circles, we all know each other, and I respect their work. She and I were on the Dr. Phil show together, and I think she’s terrific. I think right now, the only difference between myself and some other television psychics, my goal is to try and make it really relatable. I want to fee like your best friend who happens to be intuitive. I don’t know anything about astrology, I don’t know anything about numerology. That’s not my deal. It’s all emotionally based and how we connect with each other.”
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